Hi there I’m new to the site, but looking through the posts I really do feel that this little forum will be where i spend most of my time!

Is Romance really dead? does the fact that nobody has written in this forum so far confirm my suspicion?

I’m a single late twenties average women , looking for Mr. Notveryexceptional.... You just wouldn’t believe how difficult this is! I have wasted hours of my life on pointless dates, networking meals, single nights, internet matching sites, chat lines and perhaps most worryingly of all single shopping nights at Tesco!

The internet dating has been an monumentally fantastic experience! Where else can you meet a cross dresser a guy looking for his 5th wife (who actually said I love you on the first date) a blind bloke (literally a blind date!)…. Oh and did I mention the guy that wanted to buy my underwear for £5? Not sure if I was more upset by assumption of me looking like someone that would sell my underwear or the fact that he thought my underwear was only worth a fiver? How very rude!

Anyway… is the age of romance dead? Discuss….

welcome gloria! great question...is romance dead?
this is a concept i do believe most of us have tossed around and eventually put down. it seems so much bigger than us, and so we let it slide, what control do we have over it? especially when it's not just up to us. or is it?

does it take two to make a romance?

in my opinion, yes. i'm an odd girl, i pick my boyfriend flowers, and i leave him lovely little notes all over the place. he's a man's man, and when we first met, i figured him for a robot. what i view as little and insignificant steps, are huge to him. he's never been comfortable expressing his emotions, and now that he can, he's just glad he can trust me.
rose petal pathways, candles, bubble baths, champaign, chocolates on a bear rug by a roaring fire...this is how most people view "romance". they see it as a means of courting.

to me, there is nothing more romantic than when i see the weight of the day lift from his shoulders when i walk through the door. when we cozy up to watch a movie. and when he holds me because i'm falling apart.
everything from the daily, the regular, to the tragic, makes romance real to me.
i suppose it's how you define "romance". but if it's a feeling of appreciation and being blessed, i hope we can all find it. for it isn't dead, it's just evolving.
to me; romance is recognition. romance is the little things; the inside jokes, the strength in his arms, and the manner in which he always has my back. that's love, passion, and to me, romance.

Welcome Gloria! What a question....

And judging by your experiences, you should write a book. I'd buy it.

Erm, romance. If you're talking in your tangible terms then I do think there is a distinct lack of it or a lack of people supplying it anyway. You can't beat the feeling of having flowers delivered unexpectedly (I think I remember that feeling, its been a long time)

But I do like JJ Beans interpretation of romance, you are one lucky lady. You should give him this link though, for flowers, it would be nice every once in a while wouldn't it?

Welcome to GSTF Gloria...

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Gloria,

I think that you would first need to define what romance is for you because it is different for each person. I have romance with my husband most of the time, but others think we are boring!! Welcome to GSTF!!

CC

Welcome to GSTF, Gloria!

Great question - and one that is close to my heart.

Romance is not dead, but finding someone worthy of being romantic with you is the hard bit! There are so many single people around me - in fact London supposedly has over 2 millions single people who are looking for that fabled person who will sweep them of their feet.

I have been single for a while now and I have a very clear idea of what I am looking for in a girl-friend. I think that is the first step - clarity about what you want and then the rest will follow.

Watch this space....

Hi Gloria, good questions there! I thought the same when i came to this forum - romance(0) ...so perhaps it's dead (huh!?!) here too ....ha ha ...

Seeing the replies to your post it seems i was wrong.

The whole concept of Romance has changed over the years. I agree with Arvind, clarity in what you want is the first step.

Recently a friend asked me what are the top three things I would look for in my partner. Then he went on to write down those three things he thought I would look for in a man and gave me that note. Not one of those matched what I have in my mind. He was shocked and laughing saying women are impossible to please...they have a huge checklist....! (Well, that's not true.) But after we spoke , he was silent for sometime. He said,' I wish I had asked my sister this question before the family forced her to marry someone long ago.'

All of us have different life paths and we may or may not meet that one person with whom we feel completely at peace. I feel its small everyday gestures on which great romances are built. It's doesn't always have to be a Prince on a white horse sweeping you off your feet ;)

I think it finally comes down to that one person with whom you can establish a fairly balanced and warm heart connection.

And you are right Gloria, it is not always easy for everyone to find their someone special quickly in life.

on a lighter note..... you have to kiss (maybe not) many toads before you find your Prince!.... :-)

GO! Kiss the toad - now there's an idea ;-)

Good idea Jim..

anyway I don't really have an outline of the qualities that I want for my boyfriend/husband because I might end up with someone totally opposite the qualities that I stated. Yeah just keep on kissing as many toads you can find and eventually you will get the right one..

Its truly a great question, If you truly think it with your heart open.What I consider that whether the person will ever love you or you'll love the person ? I think you should leave it on the destiny.You cannot really on the networking site and you cannot trust the person blindly.I agree with what Arvind wrote. It depends on the person's thinking. As I always in search of a true love but What Stops me is just the thought of whether you can trust the girl or not. In my opinion like we are in search of the person same as the others are also in search what matters is the time when you will meet.

Welcome to GSTF Saruabh!

Destiny is key, for sure....