Flowers Got the Blues and Hope! Part II

Posted on April 13th, 2009 by Clinically Clueless

Pretend this isn’t a second part and that there are no clues on the page…got it! :-)

What do Buzz Aldrin, Adam Ant, Ingmar Bergman, Halle Berry, Albert Camus, Jim Carrey, Agatha Christie, Sheryl Crow, Rodney Dangerfield, Diana Princess of Wales, Ellen Degeneres, Harrison Ford, Paul Getty, Natalie Imburuglia, Ewan McGregor, Michelangelo, J.K. Rowlings and Queen Elizabeth II of England have in common?

They are all famous!!! :-)

Yes, but they have all had or have Clinical Depression which is called Major Depressive Disorder. Did any of the names surprise you? I was surprised…..

Major Depression is a serious medical illness affecting more than 18 million American adults, men and women of all ages, races and economic levels. Unlike normal emotional experiences of sadness, loss, or passing mood states, major depression is persistent and can significantly interfere with an person’s thoughts, behavior, mood, activity and physical health. It is the leading cause of disability in the United States and usually strikes people between the ages of 25 and 44.

Twice as many women as men are diagnosed with Major Depression. It is not fully understood why. After a single episode, a person is more likely to have another one and after the second the percentage exponentially increases with each episode. There is evidence that the brain may make permanent changes making someone more susceptible to another episode. I’ve had a least five, but only two were diagnosed and treated. The others were before age 21. Without treatment, the frequency as well as the severity increases over time and can lead to suicide. However, with proper treatment a person can recover as long as they don’t give up on the treatment. :-)

Symptoms:

persistently sad, anxious or irritable mood
pronounced changes in sleep, appetite, and energy
difficulty thinking, concentrating and remembering
physical slowing or agitation
lack of interest in or please from activities that were once enjoyed
sleeping too much or can’t sleep
feelings of guilt, worthlessness, hopelessness and emptiness
recurrent thoughts of death or suicide
persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders and chronic pain.

A depressive episode is diagnosed several of these symptoms last most of the day, nearly every day, for a period of 2 weeks or longer.

The beauty of these flowers show through the rain. Just as those with depression can show beauty to others as well if you give them time.

"The beauty of these flowers show through the rain. Just as those with depression can show beauty to others as well if you give them time."

Psychological, biological, and environmental factors may all contribute to the development of a depressive episode. Whatever the specific cause of depression, scientific research has firmly established that it is a biological, medical illness. Neurotransmitters are thought to be involved which is what medications address. There is also some evidence that there is a genetic predisposition. Also, discuss with your doctor your medical history as some illness may influence depression especially hypothyroidism.

Reportedly, between 80-90% of those treated for Major Depression return to their usual daily activities and feelings. I did so successfully for about five years, but for me this episode is much worse. But, all indications are that I will recover to some degree although it is taking much longer because it is complicated by post-traumatic stress disorder (another post).

Treatment options include medications, psychotherapy (usually cognitive behavioral therapy and interpersonal therapy), and/or electroconvulsive therapy (ECT; it causes a seizure by means of an electrical current which may improve mood). I am taking medications and receiving psychotherapy, but it is the person with the illness that must make the decisions just like a cancer patient with the assistance of their support system and medical professionals. Be aware that many of the side effects from these medications go away after a short period and it may take time before the full effects are noticed.

Possible complications of depression include suicide (15% of people with major depressive disorder die by suicide), increased risk of alcohol and drug related problems, increased risk of tobacco dependence and increased risk of problems with physical health and premature death due to medical illness.

Call 911, a suicide hotline or get safely to an emergency room if you have thoughts of suicide, a suicidal plan or thoughts of harming yourself or others. If a loved one expresses such thoughts, it is okay to let them talk about it. By not talking about it, it becomes a “taboo” subject, so they may not go to you if they are at risk. If you are thinking about it, you can be sure that they have been thinking about it.

Your doctor needs to be called right away if you hear voices, see things, smell things, feel things that are not there (psychosis which can accompany depression); have frequent crying spells, if your work, school or family life is disrupted for two or more weeks; and if you or someone else thinks that you should cut back or stop drugs or alcohol. Side effects of some medication includes depression, but DO NOT stop taking it without talking to your doctor.

Depression effects men and women in different ways which is a fairly new area of study. They process medications differently. Neurochemicals such serotonin (used by the brain to stabilize mood) is processed differently between men and women. Suicide attempts are more common in women, but men are more likely to be successful. Men are more likely to be diagnosed with alcohol problems, but women are at higher risk following an episode of depression.

Women’s changing hormones provide additional challenges. Under age 13, approximately equal numbers of girls and boys experience depression. Once they reach age 13 girls are more likely to become depressed. I know that right before and during my menstrual cycle that my symptoms are more difficult. While women may cry, become withdrawn, and gain or lose weight, men may abuse alcohol or drugs, or eat excessively, and/or become violent to themselves or others. Men keep things hidden while women are more open about their feelings. Additionally, older adults, children and adolescents will experience and express depression in atypical ways.

Preventative measures include, stress management; avoiding drugs, alcohol and caffeine; exercise regularly; and maintaining good sleeping habits. If you are socially isolated try volunteering or get involved in some social group. Medications and psychiatric treatment may prevent recurrences; however, some are not preventable.

Some helpful tips if you have a depressive disorder. You are not a failure if you cannot do these. Participate in mild activity or exercise. At the beginning, I was able to exercise, but now I do not have the energy or motivation. Participate in things that you once enjoyed. I have continued to go to music concerts, at least, one time per year. I am also beginning to read my cookbooks again and look on the Internet.

Set realistic goals for yourself. Break a large task into smaller tasks, so you don’t feel so overwhelmed. Try to spend time with a friend or relative and confide in them. Try not to isolate yourself and let others help you. This is difficult for me, but I have let my therapist, a couple of friend and my husband in more and more. The biggest step was starting this blog. Postpone making major life decisions.

Remember, it is normal for appetite and sleep to be disrupted. Be gentle with yourself. Don’t expect to snap out of it or for you to feel better “sooner.” I get into trouble with this all the time because I always want to be further than I am instead of accepting the progress that I have made.

If you know of someone who has a major depressive disorder, the most important thing you can do is to take care of yourself first before attending to the person who is depressed. Remember what they say on an airplane, put your breathing mask on first, then help others. After that the best thing you can do is to encourage them to seek a diagnosis and treatment. It is okay to shop around for a therapist and psychiatrist. It is important to have a good match because they need to be able to tell them the truth about how they feel which means they need to be as comfortable as possible.

Please, know that sharing of this sort will cause an increase of some symptoms and that you will never be completely comfortable with a health care professional. This is normal.

As a friend or relative, offer emotional support, understanding, patience and encouragement. Talk with your friend or relative and listen carefully. Never disparage feelings they express, but point out realities and offer hope. If they become agitated, acknowledge that you don’t know exactly how they feel and back off that part of the conversation, but do not end it.

Never ignore comments about suicide, and report them to your friend’s or relative’s therapist or doctor. They maybe angry for awhile, but it is necessary. You don’t want to end up at their funeral with regrets. Invite them out even if they decline, but don’t push too soon or it will feel demanding or overwhelming and increase feelings of worthlessness and failure. Remind yourself and them that with time and treatment, that the depression will get better.

I have a name, remember me and not my illness. My name is not, “depression.” Please don’t whisper anymore when you think I’m not listening or spread gossip behind my back or back away from me and pretend you don’t see me. Please try to understand and help me. If you don’t want to help, at least, don’t make it worse by making me feel “different,” unseen, worthless or like I’m a failure. Remember, there are at least 18 million of us. One of them might be you.”

"Under the least expected conditons the beauty of the flowers come out from the snow just as those with Depression can also push through seemingly unsurmountable circumstance if you show compassion and support."

Please know that most people with depression continue to work and might be a friend, family or coworker. For myself, I was able to hide my symptoms by excelling at work or school. I hope this series helps you or someone you love to have a better understanding and compassion for yourself and others with depression. I know it helped me to have more compassion for myself.

Most of the information in this post was compiled from www.nami.org, www.nlm.nih.gov, and www.healthyplace.com. You can also go to their websites for additional information and other resources. Remember, there is treatment available and stick to it don’t give up!!

(Disclaimer: Although I have worked with persons with mental illness for twenty years, I do not have a Master’s Degree or a license. This is not meant to be a substitute for mental health care or treatment. Please obtain professional assistance from the above resources, if needed. And call 911 if you or someone is in immediate danger.)

How has this series on Depressive Disorders changed your view or understanding?

In what ways, might it change what you do?

All comments welcomed.


11 Responses to “Flowers Got the Blues and Hope! Part II”

  1. sarah says:

    Erm.. I think this is by far the longest post ever. Depression.. I think everyone has depression once in a while, if not everyday. Somehow, for some people, they get cured naturally while others need help. As for me, I can lost my mind for some time and if not for the fact that I have access to the internet, I would have died from depression.

  2. Jim says:

    Lots of info there CC and enlightening – had no idea E Mcgregror & JK Rowling ‘suffered’.

    Do we all suffer at some point in our lives, I wonder?

    Loving the quote you ended on:

    “Under the least expected conditions the beauty of the flowers come out from the snow just as those with Depression can also push through seemingly unsurmountable circumstance if you show compassion and support.”

    Thank u.

    • Jim,

      Please read my response to Sarah regarding suffer at some point in our lives. (I don’t like the word suffer as it infers that we are victims which we are not…I have a whole post about that that I could post one day…it is a pet peeve of mine).

      I’m glad that you love the quote because it is something that my very own brain wrote! :-)

  3. Jim says:

    I’m drawn back to your post CC and reading the list of symptoms:

    persistently sad, anxious or irritable mood
    pronounced changes in sleep, appetite, and energy
    difficulty thinking, concentrating and remembering
    physical slowing or agitation
    lack of interest in or please from activities that were once enjoyed
    sleeping too much or can’t sleep
    feelings of guilt, worthlessness, hopelessness and emptiness
    recurrent thoughts of death or suicide
    persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders and chronic pain.

    I guess most of us feel some of this from time to time….the one where ‘ lack of interest in activities once enjoyed’ is a key one although we do evolve as our interest move on, right?

    Ok, off to play with my action man / GI Jo now!

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