My son left a CD in my truck stereo Friday Night, and yesterday I listened to it while driving to work. This isn’t some blatant promotion for the band, Blue October, but it is a blatant promotion of a certain song that made me think about how we tend to hide ourselves.
I am in the process of meeting new people, creating a new corporate network, and starting out at the bottom of the barrel in a new job culture. I don’t want any of my co-workers and team mates to see “my ugly side”. Quite frankly, I don’t want anyone to see the side of me that is deeply opinionated on several levels. Most because at this time in my life, I don’t have the energy or the time to engage in licking the flavour (a line I stole from another Blue October song) of something until it’s tasteless.
And isn’t that what happens? You get a few people together who have cemented their belief in a philosophy or a tradition on completely opposing sides of the table; compromise isn’t going to happen.
Diplomacy insists that we behave according to moral structure in a civilized setting, and yet we continue to battle it out on the war-field. Lives are lost, countries are left in ruin … because when we show our “ugly side” we are really ugly.
It happens in Divorce, the end of friendships or relations (which is just a different kind of divorce) and history begs us to remember how we hide until guns are loaded, lines are drawn and then we are free to behave as horribly as we want or can.
What is at the basis of your “ugly side” and what do you NOT want people to see the most about you, your character or your philosophy?
I go first, in the comments.