Irish Coffee: A new writer at GO! Smell the coffee

Posted on April 18th, 2010 by Jim

Welcome ‘Irish Coffee’  – our latest writer to get amongst it at GO! Smell the coffee so top o’ the mornin’ to all.

 I’m updating the old coffee badges in an attempt to make this place a worthy site to visit as part of your valuable time online.

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Irish Coffee is a 26 year old male from Ireland. Currently writing up four years of research in Systematic Theology, while considering launching a career in life coaching. When it comes to recreation,  he is also drawn to books, but this time to the sort of books that read him. When he’s had his fill of the books, he enjoys playing or watching soccer, running, meditating, and travelling. He relishes all sorts of challenges, physical and mental.  However, the greatest challenge he faces, the one which he just cannot seem to overcome, and yet the one which brings him the most joy – is the challenge of knowing himself!

Welcome to GO! Smell the coffee : Irish coffee! Discuss…..


37 Responses to “Irish Coffee: A new writer at GO! Smell the coffee”

  1. Irish Coffee,

    Welcome to Go! Smell the Coffee. I love your name!! I am addicted to coffee, but I can stop anytime. I hope that you enjoy your time here. I’m looking forward to your first post. Oh, what is Systematic Theology?

    CC
    .-= ClinicallyClueless´s last blog ..Dietician consultation =-.

  2. Irish Coffee says:

    Thanks for the welcome CC! I have enjoyed reading some of your posts – very interesting and important things!

    Systematic theology, in my experience, is where you get to really question rather than be simply indoctrinated / programmed. It includes a lot of philosophy of religion, and in my research I’m pushing the boundaries into the psychology of religion…some juicy things in there! :D

    • You are welcome. Systematic theology sounds similar to what I do, as a long time Christian, with doctrine. I’ve never been one to simply accept what is taught. I can tell you, but it always needs these things to fall into place: what I know from the Bible (from the orginal languages), taking into account the culture, rituals and other beliefs of the time, does it reflect who God is stated to be in Bible, does it fit what I feel God to be and His character. Thanks for the compliment.

      CC
      .-= ClinicallyClueless´s last blog ..Dietician consultation =-.

  3. Jim says:

    Welcome Irish coffee….just wondered what type of life coaching appeals to you and why?

    • irishcoffee says:

      Thanks Jim! It could take some time to establish my own coaching practice, especially since I am relatively “young and inexperienced”! Not that I’m overly concerned about this, but I’ve thought about venturing into Student coaching. Since I’ve been through this student phase recently myself, I could relate to their struggles. Perhaps finding students with enough money to pay for this service would be a major struggle in itself.. But alas! this is the point, isn’t it? My coaching would start by helping them save money in the first place: by becoming more organised, drinking less, more motivated to find a better part-time job, etc. Besides that, I’m also intrigued by what you could call life energy coaching.

      • Jim says:

        Ok thanks for sharing and good luck with it all…..if cash is an issue for clients you may try barter / trade offs for others things…haircuts? Clothes?Pizza? etc….it works and people do seem to be drawn to coaches socially..even after several drinks!!

        If nothing else it gives me a tremendous feeling of connection with others – flattered that they trust the coach to share their innermost thoughts / dreams with that have often been squashed by society / cynics.

        The young and inexperienced bit doesnt matter – its being a good listener and asking the right questions in a safe environment that count!

        • Ian Baker says:

          ok then

          here is one for the life coaches

          I want to be able to levitate – for an hour. legitimately.

          I will do anything you want to get me to do that. I will commit to it 100%.

          I will guarantee you cannot make me levitate for even 1 minute let alone an hour. So if you can help me achieve 1/60th of my ‘dream’ I will put 10 grand over to you.

          If i DON’T- you will give it to me.

          NOW if you believe in the evidential validity of your ‘trade’ you’ll have an easy 10k. if not you will admit its all fraudulent stuff based on getting people to write lists and act on them.

          over to you

          • Ian Baker says:

            also a question if i may

            ‘life coaching’ the wholly unregulated system of unqualified people giving out advice to the desperate……

            what if the students above came up to you and said ‘my aim in life is to drink myself into oblivion, cheat in my exams and then rob a bank’.

            would you do what was asked and coach them to achieve their goals?

            or would you object on moral grounds? and if you would who or what made you the moral arbiters on what a person should have as a goal?

            life coaching is US evangelism without the monotheistic deity.

          • irishcoffee says:

            Thanks for your invaluable input, Ian. Perhaps you should be a coach for life coaches! Keep them all in line ;) Thanks also for the link – quite an insightful story! And I would like to respond to all this by drawing attention to a basic distinction between children and adults. We could say that childhood is largely a process of objectifying everything, of holding everything and everybody responsible for our growth. It is egocentric – the world revolves around me – but I see nothing wrong in this. Eventually, however, we are meant to become responsible for our own lives; we are meant to become authentic adults. This is a potential – it doesn’t necessarily happen. I see life coaching ultimately as the process of helping the client to claim his adulthood as his own – rather than simply something imposed upon him by society, for example. Most of us want to change our lives, but some of us are stuck in the rebellious kid stage, still blaming society or else some poor sod that we project our “parenting” needs onto.

          • Ian Baker says:

            another difference between children and adults is this

            kids will believe anything they are told by self appointed authority and follow it blindly

            adults question in and look for evidence of proof

    • Old School says:

      Coffee, i note that you are considering ‘venturing into student coaching’. With your interest in systematic theology i hope you’re not a Roman Catholic Priest – could be a case of systematic abuse in the future

  4. Ian Baker says:

    fair play to anyone who can find enough mugs to get them to pay for life coaching or ‘common sense’ as it should be called.

    briefly.

    what do you want to achieve

    how will you achieve it

    write both down

    thenb act on them

    there is your free life coaching

    • Cheers. All sorted.

      How much do i owe you? A monkey should cover your sagacity.
      .-= O’DB in the Forest´s last blog ..Irish Coffee updated the "Basic" information on their profile =-.

    • irishcoffee says:

      Love the good old cynicism! Currently my own casual “coaching” pretty much amounts to just such provocation! :D Fortunately I’ve begun to appreciate that life’s more worthwhile things are achieved on a level that is even more subtle.

    • Jim says:

      The problem with that Ian is often people fall down on the steps you mention as our ever increasing society of isolation can be a lonely place to function in!

      • Ian Baker says:

        so you simply re-iterate them until they do them again. then fall off. then repeat. all the time getting paid.

        I read one of the former writers on here’s site- he self published a book- anyway his entire site is ‘make a list and do it’. hardly scientific is it?

        its all stuff like ‘be ace’. ‘you can be ace’ and then ripping off quotes from mystics to attempt to impart someone elses knowledge as his own.

        all a bit shallow and false in my opinion.

        in completely unrelated news…..

        has anyone heard from Arvind recently?

  5. ‘Top o’ the mornin’ — nice, outdated stereotype Jim.

    What next? Kissing the Blarney Stone? As Alan Partridge might proffer: there’s more to Oireland dan dis.
    .-= O’DB in the Forest´s last blog ..Irish Coffee updated the "Basic" information on their profile =-.

  6. Ian Baker says:

    just for pedantry

    society by its very nature cannot be a ‘society of isolation’

    if we take the word ‘society’ as meaning according to the dictionary

    an organized group of persons associated together for religious, benevolent, cultural, scientific, political, patriotic, or other purposes.
    2.
    a body of individuals living as members of a community; community.
    3.
    the body of human beings generally, associated or viewed as members of a community: the evolution of human society.
    4.
    a highly structured system of human organization for large-scale community living that normally furnishes protection, continuity, security, and a national identity for its members: American society.

    you can see that ‘society of isolation’ is little more than an hysterical way of attempting to appeal to peole feeling a bit glum about life.

    • Jim says:

      Blimey Ian Baker all we’re doing is welcoming a new writer here at coffee and as you know I’m a life coach myself and have got alot from it – its a personal thing!

      Thanks for presenting evidence anyway – it gives the profession balance and will no doubt help Irish Cofee address / overcome some issues that people may have with it. Their perogative of course!

      I’ve 4 coaching clients now and 3 of them deemed v ‘successful’ but unfulfilled….hence the coaching. It’s help me having a coach before aswell. I coach over a coffee, playing golf or going on a walk – its not all headstuff on the sofa and my clients coem via word of mouth!

      I’d ask you though – do you agree with the likes of personal trainers, sports coaches, soccer coaches to improve performance?

      • Ian Baker says:

        yes i do

        because they operate on a measurable scientifically proven scale

        eg- is the client at a lower bodyfat
        are they running quicker
        are they showing greater endurance

        a golf coach will show you via video what you are doing wrong- he uses technology and science to improve your skills. doesn’t just say ‘write down i am ace at golf’ and it will be so.

        also coaches take recognised scientifically valid examinations under recognised bodies.

        true or not

        ANYONE IN THE WORLD CAN CALL THEMSELVES A LIFE COACH??

        I could.

        what gives anyone the right to believe they no better? its based on nothing more than ‘lets get a bit organised’. the term ‘life housewife for the molly coddled’ would be better.

  7. Jim says:

    Hey come on now:

    httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1QRlR0ctjNE

  8. Gareth in Thailand says:

    Hmmmmm, advice from a 26 year old.
    I remember the sage advice I gave out at 26 mainly filed under the heading ‘Utter bollocks’.

    In general I would not expect to get financial advice from someone who has never really been in a bank other than to use the cash point or get car repairs done by someone who has simply worked in the local Shell garage giving out Twix’s and Pepsi Max to well stoned folk at 3 in the morning.

    Nothing personal to Irish Coffee but I think its a bit ambitious to be considering this sort of career at such a tender age.
    I would normally expect someone to have much more experience than having simply completed university (who hasn’t these days) and then twatting about researching theology for 4 years.
    I was wondering if Mr Coffee might consider some more experience prior to embarking on such a career. One way to constructively do this might be to try a real job for a few years, perhaps experiment with buying a house and allowing a single mother to live with him under his funding for a few years and then maybe, after understanding the pressures of serious commitments and economic and emotional burdens, there might be a broader knowledge and experience base from which to operate. Or if that is not to his liking maybe do a few teaching jobs around the world in places such as Asia and Africa to get a more rounded look at what goes on in the globe, anything other than Uni and priests.

    However as is seen from this site, of all the life coaches we encountered, again nothing personal as some are my friends, most of the wisdom is acquired from bullsh!t like the ‘law of attraction’ and soft terrorists like the Dalai Lama.
    I guess anyone who feels they need to hire a life coach deserves to get told to make a list and that they really are a Tiger – Come on one more time What are you? A Tiger ‘roooooaaaaaaar’.
    75 quid please.
    Not menaing to offend but shooting from the hip as I don’t think dressing up the message gets it home.

    • irishcoffee says:

      Thanks for the advice Gareth! ;) And just to be polite, I would also like to say “don’t take the following personally…”, but I’m not sure what other way you might take it.

      Indeed your comments seem to reveal more about YOUR life – experiences, prejudices, ideas – than about mine. In terms of the point in question, however, I find your “advice” a bit outdated and behind the spirit of our times.

      How do you measure experience? Isn’t it a rather ageist assumption that older = wiser? Besides, it is a misconception that the purpose of Life Coaching is to dispense advice. Its major emphasis is analysis, which can be done in a variety of ways. Indeed one way might be to tackle a prejudice such as the young-versus-elderly mindset, which at least you clearly seem held to, and which is okay for life within the social structure that creates this mindset in the first place; but what if you aren’t satisfied within it and want outside the box? Many people do, but just don’t know “how.” So aren’t you mistaken in your assumption to have the ability to tell how much people have “struggled” just by looking at what they appear to have achieved inside that box? Lives look public, but they are private. Life coaching recognises that things are not always as they appear, i.e. in a very specific way, it recognises the individual and their potential.

      • Gareth in Thailand says:

        Hi Mr Coffee,
        Not really my experiences but more a suggestion of how you could quickly get a life experience set, you could equally do a series of internships in various business or services.

        In terms of analysis, experience is a must. If you give me a set of manufacturing SPC data I can probably tell you a lot about your manufacturing process, give me further data such as temperature, tool wear and so on and I’ll tell you how to improve it and steer you process to where you want it to be.
        However give me a set of meteorological measurements from a glacier and I’ll probably just tell you its cold and maybe there is some snow. This is because I have no experience in that area and hence my analysis is poor and limited and should probably be supplemented by an expert analysis in that area.
        It is not ageist, it is simple fact.
        Due to the fact that we only pass down the time line in one direction it follows that most experience, and therefore ability to give meaningful analysis, is found as people get older and have seen a bit more.

        • irishcoffee says:

          When you’re talking about specific areas of expertise and technique, I’m in agreement with you – certain criteria for experience must be met. When you’re talking about the life of an individual taken as a whole, what criteria can you apply to measure experience in that arena? I think I’m not mistaken in claiming that life coaches with NO expertise in the area of their client actually have more impact in terms of coaching than a coach whose expertise lies within the field of his client. This is not surprising since the more psychic “distance” from the details, often the better results one can achieve in terms of the whole.

  9. Lib says:

    Welcome Irish Coffee! And I could proper welcome an Irish Coffee right now.

    I must admit, reading what you have studied so far, I was surprised to then read that you are considering a career in life coaching. It does seem a bit of a waste?

    But perhaps that says more about my opinion of life coaching than it does about your skill set.

    Anyways, good luck and looking forward to the first post!

    • irishcoffee says:

      Thanks Lib! Nice to get a proper welcome! I probably invited all the cynical responses by suggesting that I was pursuing a “career” in life-coaching. For me it’s not that “seriously”: I’m not doing it as a matter-of-course. At least I hope I’m not so naive! ;) I am simply venturing enthusiastically into this area / field. My research has brought me to this point, and hope that it will prove a wholesome channel for “what” I have studied (as you put it).

      Interested to know your opinion on life coaching.. Does it fit anywhere into the range of positions expressed above?

  10. Ian Baker says:

    Oh and welcome by the way- more the merrier!!

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